Growing up.

An anonymous person (on tumblr) who fears growing up recently asked me: how do you know if you're ready to grow up and do you? This person doesn't feel "adult" enough and feels lost. They miss their childhood and feel like the most exciting years of their life has passed them by.

This was my response:

Who is adult enough? I believe no one is ever 100% ready for anything that life throws at you, there are always unexpected turns and you never really know what is around the next bend. But that is part of the adventure. Growing up doesn’t really sound like an adventure because of all the responsibilities that it entails, but it can be.

I appreciate that you respect our opinions, thanks anon :) but I am always surprised when people look up to us. We don’t have everything figured out, and I’m not sure that we even want to. There is a sense of comfort in knowing that you are prepared for the next stage of life, but comfort can lead to complacency. Some of the greatest adventures Hanna and I have experienced are ones that we are not totally prepared for.

In a couple months were having a baby. Talk about becoming an adult. I will be a father before my brain is even fully developed. But instead of being scared, I am excited. I am not prepared 100% but I am trusting in God. I believe that God loves us, that He is in control, and that He knows best. Jesus says, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28) and James writes, “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” (James 1:2-4)

Rest in the fact that life isn’t always in your control, growing up is a normal part of life, and just because you’re growing up doesn’t mean that your life is coming to an end. Embrace change because it teaches you to value what you enjoy. Don’t give up on being adventurous just because you have more responsibilities. Learn to enjoy life whatever the circumstance.

"Thus we never see the true state of our condition till it is illustrated to us by its contraries, nor know how to value what we enjoy, but by the want of it." —Daniel Defoe, Robinson Crusoe