simplifying, from a woman's perspective

before we got married, when i moved from san diego, i had gotten rid of about half my wardrobe (at the time)--which ended up being a total of at least 7 garbage bags full, donated. and i thought that was pretty good! i mean, it was a big deal for me. but now we are married and we share a (TINY) closet and we don't have a ton of room in our  little house, so i knew it was time to make the leap and sift through my remaining clothing. it was even harder this time, because it was the stuff i had decided to keep last time and i kept thinking, 'what if i need to wear this again?!' and 'ohh but i got this from (insert ANY human's name)!!!' and 'this used to be my favorite!' So, I had to make a rule for myself: if i haven't worn it in last month, it's gone. and that ended up being a lot of items! four pairs of boots, three pairs of shoes (a really big deal!!!), and two and a half more garbage bags of clothes. the biggest reason why it was hard for me to part with an item was because of sentimental reasons. i got it from a certain person or i was wearing it at a certain event or something. and you'd be surprised at how many times that reasoning has made me keep something that was totally useless to me! here are a few things that were really hard for me to get rid of:


my american apparel zip-up. this was the first gift zach ever ever got me. my birthday was two weeks after we FIRST started dating and this was what he got me (i think it also may have been my very first good quality thing! i basically only shopped at forever 21 back then ha). i wore it so many times within the first two years of having it but i just don't wear hoodies anymore--they aren't really my style anymore and they give me more tangles in my hair than i already have. so, for those reasons and since i havent worn it in the past month, i got rid of it.





my laredo boots. i ordered these from a vintage seller on etsy this past summer and loved them but they just dont fit! it was hard for me to part with these because they are basically the perfect boots, other than the fact that they are too big for me. so for that reason, i am gonna sell em.




this little floral dress. i got this dress at a thrift store three years ago and it has traveled with me from oregon to ventura to santa maria to san diego and back up to SLO. it fits well, it is comfortable, it is cute, but its not really my style anymore and i havent worn it even in the past year! i've been holding onto it because of the fact that it fits so nicely but since i don't wear it anymore, i got rid of it!




my very first pair of vans. i got these vans during my freshman year of high school--that's ten years ago, people! they were my most favorite shoes, all throughout high school, and even when i got new vans, i always would've rather worn these, and usually did. i haven't worn em since 2009 though, so i got rid of em.






my teal patagonia better sweater. this was another birthday gift from zach! this one might have been the very hardest thing to give away. the only reason i decided to is because i have a grey one that i wear more (and the grey one was my very first patagonia item, and goes with more things). i only need one better sweater, and for that reason, i decided to give this one away.


20140201-191652.jpgmy first pair of minnetonka moccasin boots. minnetonka is another one of those quality companies--i have been buying shoes and boots from them for six years and have absolutely loved every single pair. thats why it was hard for me to part with these! i got these during the summer of 2009 and wore them twice to disneyland, on three backpacking trips (not the best arch support, i dont recommend it), and basically every single day in between. the bottom sole is coming loose from the rest of the moccasin, and i have since purchased another pair of these same boots, and so for those reasons, i am getting rid of these wonderful things.

so clearly, all of these things mean something to me but at the same time, most of them are basically useless to me. take the broken moccasin boots, for example: they can do nothing for me--i literally can not wear them, the bottom of the shoe is falling off! they just sit in my closet until the next time i decide to go through my stuff--but they have memories attached to them, and they were my very first pair of moccasin boots, so they mean a lot to me! but that alone is not a reason to keep something. if you are keeping things you don't use or don't need, they are just taking up space and creating clutter! the fact that we attach sentimental value to material possessions is one of the main reasons why we hold on to so much junk (my husband told me that one).

thank you for going on this emotional roller coaster with me--i hope it can help some of you to simplify and go through your clothing and other stuff and donate some things you don't need!